Nothing is more badass to me than a true power couple. Couples who aren’t bickering or trying to have control over the other. Two people you see and know that they have each other’s backs no matter what. Bonnie and Clyde type couples. But you know, minus all the criminal, antisocial behavior. A solid united front.
Loyalty and commitment are a big deal in all relationships. Friends, family, with significant others; everyone. You shouldn’t have to wonder if someone is truly in your circle or not. You especially shouldn’t have to wonder if the person you are choosing to spend the rest of your life with is.
This isn’t to say everything has to be agreed on all the time (more on that later).This just means that you have no doubt in your mind that when push comes to shove, the two of you will still be standing when everything else is crumbling.
Pick right from the start
The key to a ultra-strong couple is they are strong individuals. Becoming a united front means both people have to be on the same level. Don’t settle for just any partner. Make sure your partner has attributes you admire and respect. Your morals and goals should closely aline. Your partner should be someone who values the same things in life you do. They should have attributes that compliment yours. Alone you are great, together you are infallible.
If you start seeing signs that the person you are with is not on the same page as you, then you need to consider if you really think you can ever be a united front. Are they willing to back you even on the big issues that they do not agree with you about? If so, then possibly. But it will be much more difficult. Picking the right partner is the biggest component to being a rock solid duo.
Learn to love their “flaws”
No matter how well you pick, your partner will have some flaws. Everyone has something that irritates their significant other. To be a strong united front you have to learn to look past these. You may even learn to love some of them. Don’t keep pointing out the negative things you want your partner to change. You help them become a better person when you can constructively, and you let the small things go.
My partner cannot mask his facial expressions. Every time he is feeling any kind of way, you can see it on his face. I used to think it would make me absolutely crazy. Then I discovered what I call his Owen Wilson face. When he starts to get mad he furrows his brow and purses his lips and he looks like Owen Wilson! When I see that face I start to smile. At times I still wish he could disguise his expressions, but learning to love that face was my first step to learning to love the not-so-perfect stuff.
Make your partner number one in your life
There are so many things happening in our lives that prioritizing our partners may sometimes not fit in where it should. If you want to be a team, then you have to make sure you are building that mentality. You have to meet your partner’s needs. Whatever they love, you love for them. Their happiness and your happiness are connected. I know this sounds extreme to some, but if they are doing the same for you, it really isn’t in practice. Becoming a fully united front isn’t the same as other relationships. Being a united front means going that extra mile.
Your significant other should be the one person you put before anyone else. While giving another person that much value in your life is scary, it also creates an unshakable bond. With all of the chaos in the world, that is the kind of bond needed to get through a lifetime together. The payoff is worth the risk.
Embrace each other’s differences
No two people are exactly alike. In fact, having two people that share too many similarities in a relationship is not always a good thing. It is important that you are able to fill out the areas your partner is lacking. You have to embrace their differences because that is why you fit so well together. The differences are what keeps the relationship intriguing.
I know I like to be lazy. Sometimes maybe overly lazy. My partner is always on the go. Because of him I have become a more motivated and active person. In fact, if it was not for seeing how ambitious he is and wanting to be more like him, this blog wouldn’t be happening. He has so many characteristics I aspire to have more of. This ebb and flow of our personalities makes me feel like we have the ability to get past the all the difficult stuff.
Agree to disagree
Sometimes there may be something that you whole-heartedly think you are right on, but your partner will not budge. It may make you question if you can really be a united front. You can still be a strong couple that is always on each other’s side without agreeing on everything. In these instances, you will have to agree to disagree and move forward.
Remember utilizing these tips doesn’t mean you won’t fight. It just means the two of you won’t let it weaken or break your bond. If you value your partner above everything else and know that together you can overcome anything, you understand the importance of being a united front.
Be sure to evaluate which of these things you are doing successfully and which ones you can improve on. Talk to your partner and get their feedback as well!